for your first question, if you aer using Non-sequental Mode then you could find MEMs directly under the NS object list, The DLL version is used in sequential mode alone!
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For your 2nd Q, like the upstairs's reply, the STEP files should be saved under ZEMAX\Objects\CAD Files. XKTX~:
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